When Your Loved One is Depressing You

According to current statistics Americans are not, in general, happy people.  On the contrary depression is epidemic in our society.  The high occurrence of depression has caused the psychiatric community to refer to this problem as “the common cold of mental illness.”

Do you suffer from this common problem?  Maybe you are not down in the dumps but there’s a chance that you are living with someone who is depressed.  Perhaps your significant other is feeling blue but unaware that he or she is feeling and therefore behaving in a different way than usual.

Depression can sneak up gradually like a slow leak in a tire.  Oftentimes people are unaware of their depression.  A spouse or significant other can become aware before the depressed person realizes that they have lost their vitality.

What to do if your loved one is depressing you?

First of all, we suggest that you identify the problem.  If the psychological and emotional connection is frayed then there is a chance that depression is the culprit.  Has your loved one began to lose their temper frequently?  Are they crabby or less communicative?  Is anxiety the problem?  Do you feel on edge when you are with your significant other?  Settle into yourself—what are you picking up from your loved one?  After all you know this person better than—well, perhaps even better than you know yourself.

If you think your loved one is depressed of course Sandra and I suggest you immediately purchase a copy of Healing Depression the Mind-Body Way.  Read this book, preferably together, and you will be able to identify the type of depression that is clouding his or her vitality.  Awareness will come to both of you and you will be able to identify a plan which will help you to dismiss your mutual enemy.

Depression is a mutual enemy if it is robbing your loved one of their vitality.  The tone of our relationships is a prime variable for our health and happiness.  A depressed loved one doesn’t have much emotional energy to offer and chances are that you might begin to feel down as well.

Remember we are all deeply affected by everything in our environment, especially the people we live with.  The people nearest to us have the greatest effect on our well being.  If you help your loved one deal with their depression in a proactive way you will be helping yourself as well.  We send our best wishes that your relationships are filled with joy and vitality.

 

Thanks for reading,

Nancy and Sandra

 

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